12 Traits of A Narcissist

It’s not always easy to identify the traits of narcissism. Narcissism, often misunderstood, is more than just selfishness. It’s a spectrum of behaviors that can manifest differently in each individual.

In this article, we take a look at the 12 traits of narcissism and we aim to provide a comprehensive understanding of what constitutes narcissism. We’ll also explore how these traits can differ across genders, and explore the concept of covert narcissism. Whether you’re dealing with a narcissist in your personal life, professional setting, or simply interested in understanding this personality type and diagnosis, this article will serve as an informative guide.

Disclaimer: We are committed to being mindful and careful about labeling individuals as “narcissists.” While at times we will use the term “narcissist,” we will also use terms such as “narcissistic traits” or “narcissistic tendencies” to emphasize that people are multifaceted and cannot be reduced to a single diagnosis or set of behaviors. Our goal is to provide valuable insights while respecting the complexity and dignity of each person. It is important to remember that everyone is more than their health symptoms or diagnoses, and we strive to foster a non-judgmental and supportive environment in all our discussions.

What Are the 12 Traits of a Narcissist?

Individuals with narcissistic traits are complex in the varying ways these traits can be expressed. These traits can vary in intensity and frequency. Here, we delve into the 12 most common traits of narcissism.

1. Grandiosity and Need for Admiration – Narcissists often have an inflated sense of self-importance. They believe they are superior and expect others to recognize their greatness. This grandiosity is coupled with a constant need for admiration and validation.
2. Lack of Empathy – Individuals with narcissism struggle to understand or share the feelings of others. This lack of empathy often leads to insensitive behaviors. They may disregard the feelings and needs of others, focusing solely on their own desires.
3. Sense of Entitlement – Narcissists often feel entitled to special treatment. They expect others to cater to their needs without reciprocation. This sense of entitlement can lead to unreasonable demands and expectations.
4. Exploitative Relationships – Narcissism is known to exploit relationships for the individual’s own gain. These individuals may use others to achieve their goals without considering the impact on the other person. This exploitation often leaves their partners, friends, or family feeling used and undervalued.
5. Envy and Belief in Others’ Envy – People with narcissism often feel envious of others’ achievements. Simultaneously, they believe others are envious of them. This belief reinforces their sense of superiority and entitlement.
6. Arrogant Behaviors – Arrogance is a common trait among narcissists. They often display haughty behaviors, believing they are superior to others. This arrogance can manifest as dismissive attitudes, boastfulness, and a lack of respect for others.
7. Monopolizing Conversations – Dominating conversations is also a key trait of narcissism. They often talk about themselves and their achievements, disregarding others’ input. This monopolizing behavior can make others feel unheard and unimportant.
8. Belittling Others – Narcissists often belittle others to elevate themselves. They may criticize, mock, or dismiss others’ achievements and feelings. This belittling behavior is a way for narcissists to assert their perceived superiority.
9. Vulnerability and Insecurity – Despite their outward confidence, narcissism is defined by harboring deep-seated insecurities. They may react strongly to criticism and have a fear of not being admired or loved. These vulnerabilities can lead to defensive behaviors and further manipulation.
10. Difficulty in Long-Term Relationships – Struggling to maintain long-term relationships is another key trait. Their lack of empathy and exploitative behaviors can lead to conflict and dissatisfaction. Over time, their partners may feel emotionally drained and unappreciated.
11. Narcissistic Supply – Narcissists thrive on what is known as “narcissistic supply”. This refers to the attention, admiration, and validation they seek from others. They often go to great lengths to secure this supply, even at the expense of others’ well-being.
12. Gaslighting and Manipulation – Knowing how to navigate people with manipulation is key to narcissism. They may use tactics like gaslighting, where they manipulate others into doubting their own perceptions. This manipulation allows them to maintain control and avoid accountability for their actions.

Understanding Narcissism

Narcissism is a term derived from Greek mythology. It refers to Narcissus, a man who fell in love with his own reflection. In psychology, narcissism is a personality trait characterized by a sense of grandiosity, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.

It’s important to note that narcissism exists on a spectrum. Not everyone who displays narcissistic traits has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). NPD is a mental diagnosis, and it is diagnosed by professionals; it’s more substantial than exhibiting a few narcissistic traits.

What is a Narcissist?

Again, while we want to be careful about labeling people, a “narcissist” is an individual who exhibits a high degree of narcissistic traits. They often have an inflated sense of self-importance and a deep need for excessive attention and admiration. They may also have trouble handling criticism and can often belittle others to validate their own self-worth. They can also resort to victimizing themselves to receive pity when other forms of attention seeking aren’t effective.

The Spectrum of Narcissistic Behavior

Narcissistic behavior varies greatly. Some individuals may display only a few traits, while others may meet the full criteria for NPD. Understanding this spectrum is crucial to recognizing and dealing with narcissistic behavior effectively. Using the label of “narcissist” for anyone who displays a narcissistic trait is a simplification and is often not helpful for engaging with that person.

Overt vs. Covert Narcissism

Narcissism can be overt or covert. Overt narcissists are more obvious in their behavior, displaying arrogance and constantly seeking admiration. Covert narcissists, on the other hand, are more subtle, often playing the victim and using passive-aggressive tactics to manipulate others.

Narcissism in Different Genders

Narcissism is not limited to one gender. However, the way it manifests can vary between men and women and other genders. Understanding these differences can help in identifying and dealing with narcissistic behavior.

Traits of Narcissism in Men

Narcissistic men often display overt narcissism. They may be more likely to exhibit grandiosity, entitlement, and a lack of empathy. Their narcissistic traits can manifest as dominance, aggression, and a need for control.

Traits of Narcissism in Woman

Narcissism in women, on the other hand, may display more covert narcissism. They may be more subtle in their manipulation and control tactics. Their narcissistic traits can manifest as a need for attention, emotional manipulation, and playing the victim.

Dealing with Individuals with Narcissism

Interacting with a narcissism can be challenging. Understanding these individuals’ traits can help in managing these interactions. It’s important to remember that you cannot change someone, but you can control how you respond to them.

Recognizing Narcissistic Behavior

Recognizing narcissistic behavior is the first step in dealing with a narcissism. Look for the 12 traits discussed in this article. Remember, not all individuals with some of these traits are diagnosable “narcissists.”

Setting Boundaries and Self-Care

Setting boundaries is crucial when dealing with a narcissist. This can help protect your mental and emotional health. Self-care is equally important, as dealing with narcissism can be draining.

When to Seek Professional Help

If you’re in a relationship with an individual who meets the major criteria for narcissism and it’s affecting your well-being, seek professional help. Therapists can provide strategies to cope and set boundaries. Remember, it’s important to prioritize your mental health by taking practical steps.

Conclusion

Understanding the traits of narcissism can be enlightening and very helpful, especially if you have a loved one with narcissism. It can help you navigate relationships with such individuals more effectively, both with boundaries and with love. Remember, while it’s important to empathize and try to understand others’ experience, your well-being should always be a priority. Prioritizing your mental health can come with clear boundaries, resources for the loved one, and increased stability in the relationship.