June 24, 2024

3 Signs to Reach Out for Couples Therapy

By Shalayne McMillian
Mental Health & Wellbeing

If you’re asking the question, “Should we go to couples therapy?”, you are in the right place. Disagreements in relationships are typical, and to be expected. You and your partner are individual human beings, with your own life experiences, upbringing, and backgrounds. It makes sense that you are not going to see eye to eye on everything. Honestly, most couples could benefit from couples therapy and it does not mean that there is anything “wrong” with your relationship. It just means that you are learning to navigate life on the same island, rather than on your own islands. Ask yourself, what is your outlook on the relationship? Do you see a future with your partner, or are you seeking couples counseling to get confirmation that this is not the right relationship for you?

Whatever the answers to these questions, there are also three more objective signs that indicate couples therapy is beneficial.

Unproductive Communication Patterns

Communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. How do you and your partner talk to each other? In couples therapy, the therapist can help you improve communications with your partner and teach you how to develop healthier communication patterns. You will learn how to communicate using “I” statements. For example, “I felt upset and lonely that I was waiting for 10 minutes before you arrived”. It makes such a huge difference.

Lack of Understanding of each others Love Languages

There is more than just verbal communication in a relationship. There are love languages and body language. The 5 love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, gift giving, quality time, and physical touch. Imagine yourself trying to communicate with someone with whom you do not speak the same language. You might pick up on bits and pieces, but it is likely there are going to be some misunderstandings. Now, let’s apply that to love languages. The way that you express and receive love may be different from that of your partner. This can lead to tension if there is not clear communication and appreciation. Couples therapy can help you and your partner identify relationship needs and wants. It can help you navigate learning how to love in a way your partner desires, while also adapting and appreciating how you receive love.

Lack of Intimacy

There are different forms of intimacy including emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual intimacy. If you’re feeling a lack of connection with your partner, then couples therapy can help you explore the underlying causes and work towards rebuilding that intimacy. Intimacy is an essential component of a relationship that helps foster connection. Couples therapy can help you rebuild intimacy in a safe and effective way that provides room for understanding each other, furthering your communication through intimacy and elevating your connection with one another.

Taking the step to go to couples therapy can be a powerful way to strengthen your bond, improve communication, and resolve ongoing issues. Remember, seeking therapy is a sign of commitment to your relationship and a proactive approach to ensuring a healthier, happier future together. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us here at Optimum Joy, and take the first step towards a more fulfilling relationship.

Written By

Shalayne McMillian

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