August 21, 2024

5 Ways Dating Couples Can Benefit from Couples Therapy

By Shalayne McMillian
Mental Health & Wellbeing
Relationships

Dating is a stage of exploration and getting to know each other better. It’s a time when couples lay the foundation for their future together. While dating relationships are generally less complex compared to long-term commitments, they still require effort, communication, and growth. Strengthening your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual connection helps foster connection and closeness, and this is where couples therapy can come into play!

Establishing Relationship Expectations:

The two of you are coming from different points of view, cultures, experiences, values, and belief systems. Couples therapy allows dating partners to explore and discuss their expectations for the relationship. It’s an opportunity to align their visions and goals. This process can help couples identify potential areas of conflict and work through them before they become more significant challenges. Being open, receptive and honest when discussing your expectations is important in order to align with each other. Clear communication can help build trust and a strong foundation based on compassion and understanding. On the other hand, misaligned expectations can lead to conflict and disagreement that stems from misunderstandings.

Couple walking on a brisk autumn day in the city, talking about the expectations they have for dating and going to therapy together.

To Learn How to Effectively Communicate When Conflict Happens.

Couples therapy provides a safe and neutral space where dating couples can learn effective communication skills. A therapist can help couples navigate difficult conversations, express their needs and concerns, and develop healthier ways of resolving conflicts. Building strong communication skills early on can set a solid foundation for the relationship’s future. At times, couples find it difficult to be open and honest with each other due to fear of how the other person will feel and misunderstanding. In therapy, the therapist acts as a neutral person assisting each partner in identifying and effectively delivering their message, while also helping with reflective listening and radical acceptance of what the other person is saying. An example of how to improve effective communication is by learning how to identify the different forms of communication each may be using. By identifying which form you and your partner use and working towards ways to be more assertive with each other, while also respecting boundaries and individual triggers that may act as a barrier to receiving the message can be helpful for effective communication and engagement.

Couple smiling after talking through effective communication skills in their last therapy session.

Promoting Strengths

Couples therapy while dating can point out the strengths of the relationship, not just the areas that require management. Often, the majority of intentional and meaningful conversations between couples focus on the problem areas of the relationship, which makes it easy to forget about the areas of the relationship in which the couple functions well. Promoting the strengths of the relationship can help the couple see the enjoyment in their relationship and therefore not solely focus on the negative aspects of the time they spend together. It is helpful to have a therapist remind each client how to pull from their strengths to improve the areas that are more difficult to navigate. At times, our busy lives can get in the way of remembering to acknowledge the positives and milestones your relationship is reaching. Utilizing the therapeutic space for sharing accomplishments, goal achievements and new milestones are topics that can all be discussed in couples sessions.

Preventative Measures

Couples therapy can act as a preventive measure against future challenges. By addressing potential issues early on, dating couples can develop skills and strategies to handle difficulties that may arise later in their relationship. This proactive approach can increase relationship satisfaction and reduce the likelihood of major conflicts or even a breakup. Couples therapy can also help to increase and strengthen the aspects of the relationship that are already strong and develop the weaker areas, only to improve the relationship as a whole. Couples can learn how to make compromises, determine shared goals, and express their feelings. As the relationship grows, you will have the tools and understanding of what each person wants and needs. Lastly, couples can bring up concerns in a neutral environment with an unbiased third party to help them see the problem clearly.

Couple in light gray shirts sitting on a medium gray couch with blue patterned pillows, talking about the preventative measures they're taking by going to therapy.

Navigating Life Transitions

Dating couples often experience significant life changes individually or as a couple. These changes can include career transitions, moving in together, blending families, or considering long-term commitment. Couples therapy provides support and guidance during these transitions, helping partners navigate the complexities and make informed decisions together.

If you are a dating couple considering couples therapy, it’s essential to find a qualified therapist who specializes in working with couples. When selecting a couples therapist, it’s important to consider factors such as their qualifications, experience, and compatibility with you and your partner. Many therapists offer initial consultations, which can be a valuable opportunity to assess whether the therapist is a good fit for your needs. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength and a proactive approach to building a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Get started today!

Written By

Shalayne McMillian

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