“Am I struggling with making big life decisions? Is it acceptance?… Or am I settling? How do I know the difference?”
Many of us find ourselves wrestling with these questions; questions that can be emotionally charged and that inform big decisions in our lives. Know you are not alone and a therapist can help you work through your choices.
If you find yourself feeling confused, being more irritable or overwhelmed, know that this is normal to feel. It Is understandable to feel this way. You are weighing big decisions and this can add extra stress or pressure to your everyday life.
If this is you…
Some important things to keep in the mind: Keep a self care routine going. This is the time to support your mind, body and spirit. You will need extra support when under extra pressure. Be sure to schedule in extra care for yourself. Recommendations include keeping a regular rhythm to your schedule, walking at least 20 mins a day, confiding in trusted relationships, keeping a thought journal, and practicing gentleness with yourself.
Remember that making these decisions can take time. It’s important to give yourself space to process big decisions. These types of questions can evoke big emotions and thoughts. So be sure to set your expectations to include the time you need to make the journey to the end. Keep the big picture in mind. Remember why you are doing this. The process isn’t always easy, but it might be exactly what you need to get you where you are going.
There is hope to be found
These types of crossroads are familiar within the human experience, and in the therapy room. There is hope to be found through knowing that others have waded into the deep questions you might be facing and that have found answers to some of these looming questions.
All you have to do to start is to give yourself permission to explore these thoughts and feelings, and you too can set out on a path. If you decide that we are a part of this path, it would include developing a safe place to explore these thoughts and feelings, an additional set of skills that can help lead you to a new understanding in order to support you in addressing your big questions. Through therapeutic techniques like mindfulness and the Wise Mind tool of DBT, you can learn to integrate the different parts of our experience into how we deal with these big life questions.
You are not alone, and we are here to help. With more stress we need more support. If you are interested in learning more about how to develop mindfulness skills, seeking a safe space to discuss your thoughts and feelings or are considering big life decisions, reach out to us and see if therapy is the right place for you to handle addressing this.
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