Feelings of low self-worth are a deeply personal and often isolating experience. Thoughts like, “I’m not good enough,” or “I don’t deserve this,” may creep in, leaving you questioning your value in relationships, work, and social spaces. These feelings are not uncommon and can affect the way you see yourself and your experiences.

What Makes Someone Worthy?

Clients often bring up their expectations for themselves and discuss how they will only feel better once they prove they are worthy. One helpful question I always bring up is, “What makes someone worthy?” When you think about people you admire and love, what are the qualities you associate with their worthiness? Perhaps it’s their kindness, authenticity, or simply the fact that they exist.

What Makes You Worthy?

Now, consider whether these same qualities apply to you. Chances are, you’re much more willing in acknowledging worth in others than for yourself. Your inner critic might be eager to jump in and argue that we should be holding ourselves to something higher. This discrepancy often stems from core beliefs, cultural influences, or past experiences that have shaped your perspective. It is easy to hold ourselves up to an unrealistic standard, whether consciously or subconsciously, to measure our self-worth. These criteria often include achievements, physical appearance, or the approval of others. While there’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting to succeed or be appreciated, tying your worth to external factors can lead to unrealistic expectations. The criteria might even be non-existent! Sometimes, there may just be a vague sense that we are falling short.

For instance, you might believe that your worth is tied to achieving milestones in your career. However, when a friend experiences a career setback, you likely don’t view them as less worthy. This inconsistency highlights the unfair expectations we place on ourselves. Low self-worth often convinces us that we are undeserving. It can sound like, “You don’t deserve to be happy,” or “If people really knew you, they wouldn’t care about you.” These thoughts can feel so real that they shape how we interact with the people around us. Maybe the issue isn’t your inherent worth but how you interpret your experiences. Our minds are really strong storytellers, but sometimes, the stories we tell ourselves might not align with our values and beliefs.

Reach Out

You are Worthy. Period. Rediscovering your self-worth is not about becoming someone new; it’s about acknowledging the value that has been there all along. It requires self-reflection, compassion, and a willingness to challenge the stories you’ve been told—or have told yourself.

If you find yourself struggling with low self-worth, know that you don’t have to navigate this journey alone. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore these feelings, reframe your thoughts, and build a healthier relationship with yourself.

You are deserving of kindness, respect, and happiness—not because of what you’ve achieved or how others perceive you, but simply because you exist.  Don’t hesitate to reach out today and get started! Remember, you are worthy!