The backbone of Viktor Terpay’s work as a therapist and personal life is vulnerability. He shares about his early perception that to be strong was to be “superhuman” and courageous. Unfortunately, being a superhuman leave people isolated and disconnected. Viktor dialogues with our founder to talk about why vulnerability is risky, and why taking the risk leads to a humane life full of real connections.
00:00-01:59 Introduction to Vulnerability with Viktor Terpay & his personal experience
01:59-02:42 Vulnerability perceived as weakness when actually it is powerful and transformative
02:42-03:49 Redefining Courage
03:49-05:31 What does it look like to be vulnerable? Risk taking.
05:31-06:39 Find spaces that are supportive for risk taking. Come back and continue working
06:39-09:04 Reflection is a tool to build language and skills around vulnerability to connect
09:04-10:05 We turn to automatic responses to keep us safe, but it keeps us stuck and disconnected.
10:05-11:04 Picture of what vulnerability looks like. The risk of vulnerability can feel like “I might die” but to not do so keeps person stuck
11:04-12:15 Trauma, difficult experiences, and shame work against vulnerability, leading to substance misuse and escape. To risk means the reward of powerful connection
12:15-15:35 Resource: @brenebrown books/works, check in with self, use counseling as a uniquely safe place to practice risk taking of vulnerability
15:35-15:59 Wrapping up
Hosted by therapist Alexandra Hoerr
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