Hadeley Overaker

What would you say to someone who feels they aren’t “sick enough” for therapy?

Hi, I’m Hadley and I’m a mental health therapist here at Optimum Joy. Something that I would want people to know about counseling is that I’ve met a lot of clients who have said, “Oh, I’m not sick enough for counseling,” or on the opposite end of the spectrum, “Maybe my problems aren’t big enough.” There is often a fear that you might be bothering the therapist or that you will be judged.

I believe human beings were made for community and to do life with one another and support one another. It’s important to know that when you come into counseling, you are not the sum of your low moments, your vulnerabilities, or your fears. Counseling is simply a safe place where you don’t have to fear judgment. It’s a space to work through things and pursue peace, love, and joy, knowing that your past doesn’t have to define you.

What is your favorite part of being a therapist?

My favorite thing is being a person that people can come to to feel heard and seen, and helping them feel unstuck. That is a very common feeling for those struggling with mental health—feeling stuck in old patterns of behavior, old thought patterns, or difficult relationships.

I love opening up a space where people can be honest, but also providing tangible techniques and tools to help them move forward. There’s nothing more rewarding than when a client comes into a session and says, “Hey, remember that thing you suggested I try? I’ve been doing it and I feel so much more free.”

What brings you joy in your personal life?

So many things! It might sound cliché, but my friends and my family bring me so much joy. I really believe we were built to do life together. I also find joy in engaging with things that make me feel part of something bigger than myself—whether that’s a deep, vulnerable conversation with a friend, engaging with my faith, or volunteering. And coffee brings me a lot of joy, too—especially a latte in a cute mug. There is so much happiness in that.

What do you enjoy doing outside of the office?

I love staying active, especially if it involves being outside. You’ll often find me at spin classes, hiking, horseback riding, or swimming. I find that movement really helps with stress and taking care of myself.

I am also very passionate about the arts. I started at a very young age in vocal performance and ballet, so I love going to the symphony, the opera, and art museums. I’m a big fan of literature and even just walking around Chicago to look at the architecture. Finally, I love traveling—especially anywhere that is really different from where I grew up. Trying different cuisines and talking to people from different cultures is so important for growing in wisdom, empathy, and open-mindedness.