Xavier Durrant

He/Him/His
Chicago

Clinical License

Supervising Clinician: Alexandra Hoerr, LCPC 180.010561

Education

MA in Clinical Counseling, Colorado Christian University, Lakewood, CO

BA of Business Management, Florida Atlantic University, Boca Raton, FL

Specialities
  • Abuse & Neglect
  • Adulting & Responsibility
  • Anxiety & Depression
  • Artists & Performing Arts
  • Attachment & Family Of Origin
  • Career & Purpose
  • Childhood Trauma
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Couples Therapy
  • Dating & Romance
  • Discernment & Divorce Counseling
  • Domestic & Intimate Partner Violence
  • Faith Integration & Spirituality
  • Family Planning & Pregnancy
  • Family Therapy
  • Gender Identity & Sexuality
  • Group Counseling
  • Helping Professionals
  • Leadership
  • LGBTQIA+ & Queer Concerns
  • Life Transitions
  • Loss & Grief
  • Multi-cultural & International
  • Parenting & Co-parenting
  • Platonic Relationships
  • Porn & Sex Addiction
  • Racial Concerns & Trauma
  • Religious Trauma & Church Hurt
  • Trauma & PTSD
Techniques
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
  • Humanistic Therapy
  • Mindfulness-Based Counseling
  • Existential Therapy
  • Attachment-Based Therapy

My Approach

When you were an infant, you were entirely dependent on your caretaker. You learned to trust and depend on the people who raised you to provide for your most basic needs like food, shelter, safety, love, and belonging. As an infant, you had a built-in desire to get your needs met by those closest to you. The more connected you were to those who nurtured you, the stronger your attachment to them grew. However, suppose you formed an early bond with a caretaker who was mainly inconsistent in how they loved, nurtured, and responded to you? Or, maybe your caretaker unintentionally left an imprint on your mind that it was unsafe to let your guard down or to be vulnerable around others. These experiences can affect how you show up in your relationships, work, and identity. You may have experienced a major Traumatic event or many traumatic events throughout your life but have no recollection of the details. Although these experiences may be challenging to remember, they sometimes find ways to bury themselves deep down into your subconscious mind and psyche. They can cause you to live in a state of anxiety, worry, fear of rejection, to feel like an imposter, or that you must perform well to receive love. If the answer to the following questions “are you lovable”, “are you worthy”, and “are you enough” is no, my life’s purpose and work is to help clients just like you untangle, grow aware, grieve/accept, forgive, and repair.

Please know that whatever you have been suffering through, you do not have to go at it all alone. Study after study shows that when you tell your story to the “right person” who will respect and keep it safe, feelings of shame and anxiety can begin to subside. Alternatively, when we tell our stories to people who may love us and have the greatest of intentions for us if they are not equipped and skilled to hold a safe space for us, we leave our minds and hearts susceptible to further emotional damage and wounding. WHO you share your story with matters.

Take your next step toward growth.

Three female counselors in Chicago standing against a railing on the roof of their therapy office laughing.