November 29, 2023

Wading Through Life’s Transitions

By Alex Stewart
Identity Development
Mental Health & Wellbeing

Life can be thought of as a series of transitions as we move from one phase to another. Whether these transitions are planned or unpredictable, all transitions come with their own emotions and adjustments.

Life transitions are widely known as significant changes in a person’s life circumstances affecting their roles, routines, or relationships.

Together, we’ll explore the different types of life transitions and how to healthily navigate them in a manner that fosters personal growth while accepting change.

Types of Life Transitions:

Developmental:

The most universal of all transitions, these speak to the developmental stages that occur with age, such as the progression through childhood to adolescence, or young adulthood, adulthood, and middle age.

Situational:

These kinds can overlap with others– they fall under external events that happen to a person, such as moving to a new city or starting at a new school or job.

Health-Related:

Transitions such as these are related to health changes, like recovering from surgery or coping with the diagnosis and symptomatology of a chronic illness.

Relationship:

These speak to the evolution of interpersonal relationships, including the various types of beginning or ending a romantic relationship, such as breaking up, marriage, or temporary separation and reconciliation.

Another kind of transition under this type is grieving the loss of a loved one. Becoming parents or empty nesters also qualifies.

Career:

This transition is related to any change in one’s professional realm, such as getting a promotion, changing positions, changing career fields, or even retiring.

How To Navigate Transitions:

Confronting One’s Emotions:

Identifying and honoring your feelings is always important, especially during times of uncertainty. Allow yourself to unapologetically feel all that comes with navigating this time.

Seeking out One’s Support System:

Reaching out to friends, family, or even a licensed professional about your experiences and feelings can help manage your emotions. Consider connecting with others who have been through or are currently in a similar stage of life as you– it can be comforting.

Realistic Expectations:

Transitions may bring difficulty and uncertainty that take time to manage. Being patient with yourself as you adapt and realizing that you may have yet to have all the answers immediately is important.

Engaging in Self-Care:

Maintaining a self-care routine that restores your energy and allows you to engage in activities you enjoy is an integral part of managing stress.

Organization:

Creating a plan or routine for the practical aspects of the transition. This can help limit some uncertainty, reduce stress, and provide a healthy sense of control.

Being Open to Learning and Growth:

This time presents opportunities for self-discovery and personal growth. During this time, embrace the chance to learn new skills, experience new, exciting activities, and explore the different aspects of your identity.

Holding Space for Wins:

Allow yourself to pause and celebrate your achievements, big or small! Taking the time to acknowledge these things can help boost one’s self-confidence and motivation levels.

Staying Positive:

Speaking of positive energy, maintaining a hopeful outlook by focusing on the benefits and opportunities that come with transitions, such as discovering new activities or new things about yourself.

Challenging Transitions and Coping Strategies:

Loss and Grief:

Regardless of the type of transition, it is typical to feel a sense of loss or grief, though this is more common when navigating the loss of a loved one. This loss can pertain to changes in routines, relationships, or a piece of your identity left behind when changing careers or moving cities.

Identity/Self-Esteem:

Your sense of self may be challenged– this can be a time to reevaluate your values, interests, and goals to make sure that they align as you step into a new phase of life.

Fearing the Unknown:

Stepping into a new phase of life can be anxiety-inducing to its unpredictability. Engaging in mindfulness and other stress-reducing activities can help manage those levels of anxiety.

Resistance:

Like fearing the unknown, resistance to change is common– often, comfortability is based on familiarity. Identifying your resistance and reflecting inward can help break down those barriers.

Conformity:

External pressures such as societal expectations and opinions of others can cloud your mind. Staying true to your values and making choices that align with your authentic self can help you stay grounded as you navigate these transitional times.

Overwhelm:

Keep goals and tasks manageable by breaking them into smaller steps so they’re easier to prioritize and achieve.

Life transitions are an unavoidable, ever-changing part of the human experience. While they can bring up resistance and avoidance, viewing them as opportunities to grow, build resilience, and explore oneself is important.

Keep in mind that everyone is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. But, by engaging with your emotions and honoring them, maintaining contact with your support system, and becoming open to the unknown, guiding yourself through life’s changes can be easier.

Each of these transitions can be used as a lesson about oneself. Embracing the beauty of change and all the possibilities that come with it can aid in the inevitable evolution of self.

Facing a life transition? You don’t have to navigate it alone. Reach out to our experienced therapists for guidance and support. 

Written By

Alex Stewart

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